I've neglected my blog. I dropped out of grad school. I had to assume responsibility for my grandmother and help her die peacefully. I'm still advocating for diversity, inclusion, and equity (DEI). I'm part of the fight for trans rights, even though I'm not doing nearly as much as some others are (and I thank…Read more There are no children
Christmas Reflections
Mickey Rooney and Judy Garland are gone So are Santa Claus and the Land of Oz And all of my boyhood dreams. Just watched Rudolph again The adults were all complicit in destroying That young bright queer Reindeer's dreams. Donner was a narcissist, Comet a grown bully Rudolph had to leave and grow up on…Read more Christmas Reflections
Credit to Majel Barrett
The Star Trek universe is not perfect. For me, as a young trans man, growing up in the 1970's and 1980's...Star Trek was a beacon of hope for a better world that wasn't visible. I eagerly attended sci-fi conventions. I hoped. I wanted a better world. I'm still waiting, and in 2020, it feels like…Read more Credit to Majel Barrett
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A Moonless Night Hot wind blows the smell Destruction, Devistation My neighbors sleep Yet, so many weep Fire on the wind Virus in the air So many in Despair No one stops to ask.... Why? I have sight How are you blind? So many assume they know the answers without ever thinking of Asking the…Read more 20 20
Sleep is for the ignorant
I can't sleep. I haven't been sleeping well for the last couple of months anyway (thanks to the C-19 Plague, lockdown, working from home, complete routine disruption, and so on). All of that is still true; now it's been joined by the stress of watching the country erupt like a giant zit. A pus filled,…Read more Sleep is for the ignorant
School’s out for Summer
I have to admit, once I realized I had enough blog posts for the semester, I stopped blogging for a bit. It was just too much. I've had a hard time keeping up on what I have to do; let alone what I want to do. I've been working from home since Mid-March. I'm grateful…Read more School’s out for Summer
Non Binary
I have to admit, I am challenged by the non binary as well - I've always identified as binary. I'm trans and binary. I've never doubted I'm male. When I was growing up, I 'passed' as male more often than not, but I was androgynous. I hated being stuck in that mode. (Of course, non…Read more Non Binary
Socialization
This post hit home for me. There has been an underlying assumption that I've encountered talking to people that I was socialized as female, not male. I don't feel that at all. Other people were able to "fit into" the assigned social role, perhaps the dysphoria didn't impact them as young as it did me.…Read more Socialization
A different spin
So, today's post is a little different. My morning started with a high school classmate that I'd not spoken to in years asking to chat. His child is coming out as trans. One of the worries I hear from parents of trans kids is the worry that they'll be able to make a life for…Read more A different spin
Transgender Day of Visibility
#TDoV Today is the Transgender Day of Visibility. It's been celebrated, mostly online, since 2009, as a day for trans people to be out, open, and visible in the world. It's a day to celebrate the lived lives of trans people. I hosted a phone call with my company today. People called in from all…Read more Transgender Day of Visibility